The
first time I heard The Giving Tree was when my mother read it to me some years
ago. Back then I didn’t fully appreciate it the way I do now. When I was a
young girl I couldn’t understand how the tree could still be happy even after
giving up everything for the boy who seemed only to remember her for what she
could offer him. But hearing the story again now that I’m older, there are two
ways I am better able to comprehend it.
The
first is about the boy. He was not selfish and cruel; he was merely growing up.
In the process of growing up his priorities changed and the tree became
something he took for granted. I don’t think he did this on purpose though.
Like most of us growing up, he was caught up in his own little world.
Originally of course, his world mostly consisted of the tree but as he got
older, his world began expanding until the tree was barely in it anymore. The
boy had dreams and wants and following his dreams was never a crime. In the end
he and the tree were reunited. I like to think of this as his coming home. No
matter how far one travels in life, one must never forget to return to where he
belongs.
The
other new way I view the story is about the tree herself. I could never
understand why she had no problem giving all of herself to the boy when it
seemed like he gave her nothing in return. Now I realize that what she had for
him was unconditional love. It didn’t matter to her that he never physically
gave her anything. His presence in her life gave her happiness and for her that
was always enough. I realize now that the story is very similar to the
relationship one has with his or her parents.
When
we’re very young our moms and dads are our whole world but as we grow older we
begin to grow apart from them. We don’t realize it but they’re always still
around, waiting for us and prepared to give us anything we need. Reading The
Giving Tree again has made me appreciate my parents better. They have given me
everything that they can and allowed me room to grow even though they would
probably prefer it if I was right beside them like I used to be. I’ll always be
grateful for that.
Reading
the story again made me realize that there are several different ways it can be
interpreted, especially considering Shel Silverstein’s background which was not
particularly child-friendly. For example, I read that there are several people
who criticize the story saying that it promotes selfishness, narcissism and
codependency.[1] Others say that it sends an unhealthy message to
parents and tells them to give everything to their children even if it means
having absolutely nothing for themselves. Environmentalists dislike the book
for obvious reasons. At first I wasn’t sure how to reconcile all these opinions
with the one I had formed for myself but then I realized that all of these
perspectives are valid and it just depends on how you choose to view the story.
Personally
I would like to continue seeing it the way I do. It portrays one’s love and
whether or not the boy was deserving of that love is not ours to speculate. All
we can do is appreciate it for what it is – unconditional.
[1] Margalit, R. (5 Nov. 2014). "The Giving Tree" at Fifty: Sadder Than I Remembered. The New Yorker. Retrieved from http://www.newyorker.com/books/page- turner/giving-tree-50-sadder-remembered.
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